The Magic of Not Knowing: Why Uncertainty Is a Sacred Initiation

Monica Finazzo
Sep 3
3 min read

Have you ever found yourself stuck in the in-between?

Not quite where you were… not quite where you want to be… The one between clarity and confusion, between certainty and surrender, that space is sacred.

It is the place of creativity. And it’s where so many of us get scared.

We’ve been taught that knowing exactly what’s next means we’re in alignment. That doubt means we’re doing something wrong.

But that’s not true.

I’ve learned over and over again in my spiritual journey and in mentoring sensitive souls like you that uncertainty is not the absence of guidance. It’s actually the very first step into the depth of your soul.

My Journey Into the Fog

There was a time when I wanted every answer before I took any action.

I would pull card after card, asking, rewording, doubting. I journaled, saged, meditated, Googled… all in hopes that Spirit would just make it clear.

But instead of clarity, I got stillness.

No booming voice. No undeniable sign. Just… fog.

I felt lost, like I was doing something wrong. But the truth? I was in initiation. It was the start of the end.

That space of not-knowing is where your intuition sharpens, not because you suddenly get answers but because you begin to trust yourself enough to take the next step anyway.

You’re Not Lost. You’re Transforming.

If you’re in that space right now: unsure, paused, hovering between “yes” and “not yet”, you’re not behind. You’re not broken. You’re not off-path.

You are changing into a better version of your soul's expression in this life.

This phase of spiritual uncertainty is where your ego softens and your soul stretches. It’s where your mind has no choice but to surrender and allow your intuition to lead.

Stop Trying to Figure It All Out . Trying to force clarity can actually push it further away.

Sometimes the answers don’t come until we stop demanding them.

Instead of trying to figure it all out, try this:

Pause the need to have all the answers right now.

Breathe into the space you’re in.

Let the uncertainty be a teacher, not a threat.

You don’t need to know the whole path. You only need to know the next right feeling.

A Simple Grounding Ritual for Uncertain Times

This is something I return to often when I feel unsure:

Ritual: “I Am Safe In the Unknown”

What You’ll Need:

A small candle
A notebook or journal
10 minutes of stillness

Steps:

1. Light your candle and take three deep, slow breaths.

2. Say out loud: “I am safe, even here. Even now.”

3. In your journal, write down:

* What feels uncertain in my life right now?

* What would I do if I trusted this space?

* What’s one small step I feel guided to take today?

4. Blow out the candle and give thanks for the wisdom already within you.

Repeat this as often as needed. This is your safe return to self.

**3-Card Spread for Trusting the Unknown**

You can use this tarot or oracle spread any time you’re in transition or doubt:

1. What am I resisting clarity about?

This card shows you where you're holding on too tightly, or where fear may be blocking flow.

2. What is being revealed to me now?

This card offers gentle insight into what truth is already emerging, even if it’s not fully formed.

3. How can I trust the process?

This card supports you in softening into the unknown, offering guidance on patience, ritual, or connection.

After pulling your cards, journal your reflections or sit with them quietly. Let the messages land over time.

You’re Being Guided - Even Here

Here’s what I want you to know: the fog isn’t a failure.

It’s a pause so your soul can catch up.

Every spiritual teacher I know (myself included) has sat in that space of “not yet.” And every time, something new was being formed behind the scenes.

You are in that formation now.

And I promise, this space won’t last forever.

But while you’re in it, hold yourself gently.

When You’re Ready to Deepen Into Trust…

Inside The Oracle’s Journey, I don’t just teach you how to read the cards. I guide you back to your own inner knowing.